A lovely post from a very observant Reggio teacher. She describes, beautifully, how a child who is “helped” can be “injured”.
“Every unnecessary help is a hindrance.” Maria Montessori.
I know, it is very difficult to know when help is unnecessary, especially with a child at home whose abilities are changing by the hour!
I will tell you, it is often better to seem too busy to help, or to reply: “Hmmmm?’, and see what happens. If a child is tired of waiting for help, they may attempt it on their own.
I will also, sometimes, leave a child with the words: “Come get me if you need help.” Not having me nearby makes it more sensible to keep trying.
Another good “teacher phrase” is “Try it as if you know how.”