A child’s self-confidence is vulnerable to assistance

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http://www.teacherasaresearcher.com/blog/when-a-child-loses-their-self-trust

A lovely post from a very observant Reggio teacher. She describes, beautifully, how a child who is “helped” can be “injured”.

“Every unnecessary help is a hindrance.” Maria Montessori.

I know, it is very difficult to know when help is unnecessary, especially with a child at home whose abilities are changing by the hour!

I will tell you, it is often better to seem too busy to help, or to reply: “Hmmmm?’, and see what happens. If a child is tired of waiting for help, they may attempt it on their own.

I will also, sometimes, leave a child with the words: “Come get me if you need help.” Not having me nearby makes it more sensible to keep trying.

Another good “teacher phrase” is “Try it as if you know how.”

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